Q&A

We suppose you’ll be wanting some information.

I’m confused. What is going on?

A wedding! Actually, a whole wedding weekend. And we hope you can join us!

A whole weekend?

Possibly! More, if you can! Or less, if you can’t! We know how busy everyone is—and are delighted to provide you with an excuse to take time out to celebrate with us.

That’s sweet, but I have a life.
When is the actual wedding day? Like, when do I have to be there?

No one has to be anywhere (well, maybe except us). We are organizing a smorgasbord of events, including two different ceremonies and multiple associated festivities. We don’t expect everyone to make it to everything; and perhaps certain events will appeal more to some than to others. Think ”different strokes for different folks” rather than “one size fits all”.

This approximate schedule should give a general idea of what’s happening when—more detailed information coming soon!

So, can I bring my kids?

Sure! Most events will be child-friendly, and there will be plenty of kids running around. Make sure you’ve told us that your kid is coming and whether you need childcare.

Some events on Saturday—in particular, the ceremony and reception dinner—are intended for adults and children who have a personal relationship with us. During these times, we are planning an alternative kids’ camp / childcare option that we think will be much more entertaining for them than our boring serious mindful solemn adult ceremonial stuff. (It‘s entirely possible that you or your partner may prefer that too!)

And: If you have (vested) interest/expertise in maximizing our kid-friendly quotient, we welcome your input!

But should I bring my kids?

Well, that‘s a tougher question! We want you to be able to relax and be present with us. Whether having your bundle of joy / fidgety toddler / precocious progeny along will facilitate that—for the whole weekend or for specific events—is for you to say.

So, can (or should) I bring my partner?

Maybe. How does your partner feel about lanyards?

Just kidding! Partners are welcome: you are a part of our lives and so are they, whether directly or through you.

But—as above for kids—we want you to be able to relax and be present with us. Whether having your partner along will facilitate that—for the whole weekend or for specific events—is for you to say. We are also more space-constrained for our Saturday afternoon and evening events, so we hope you’ll understand that we aren’t able to invite non-specific +1’s, or even very specific special friends / ambiguous buddies / promising dates who don’t (yet) have a personal relationship with us (or perhaps you!). It might make sense for them to join just for Sunday’s larger events.

If you’re still wondering what we mean, don’t hesitate to just ask us!

Hey, are you inviting so-and-so? You must be inviting so-and-so! Right?

Maybe, but maybe not to the entire weekend, and they might not yet know. We have a less space-constrained (but equally awesome) event planned on Sunday, and we‘ll be letting a wider crowd know about that soon. These things take time. Feel free to ask if you need to know!

I’m coming from far, far away. Help!

Woohoo! We are extra thrilled that you are making the effort and will do whatever we can to help. We also hope you’ll be able to spend more time in the area before and/or after the wedding—depending on who’s free, we will organize touristy (and non-touristy) activities and pre-/post-wedding events. We may even be able to connect you with travel buddies or local buddies who can help out with transit or a place to stay.

  • See here for general travel & transit information. (Tourism tips coming soon!)
  • Ideal timing would be to arrive in the SF Bay Area by Thursday (June 2) and stay until Monday (June 6). More than that would be delightful; less than that completely understandable. We’ll gratefully take what we can get!
  • If you happen to be in town the weekend before, we will likely hold a preliminary event on Sunday, May 29 in/around SF.
  • Don’t hesitate to ask for more help/advice with your travel plans!

I’m coming from not-so-far away. Help?

Apologies for not planning a destination wedding in a faraway locale, thereby robbing you of the joys of wrestling with airfare sites, security checks and customs. But you’re in luck: you can still treat Santa Cruz as a getaway if you come stay in the area, instead of driving back and forth along winding roads the whole weekend.

Oh, or you’re asking how you can help? Great! See here!

Interested in cultural exchange? Have a spare bedroom or sofa you wouldn’t mind offering before/after the weekend? Can you give someone a lift? Have helpful tips for visitors? We guarantee an extremely non-random procedure for matching you up with people who you might enjoy meeting, and who we also guarantee will be extremely grateful for your having made it that much easier, affordable and delightful to make the trip. And who knows? They might be willing to return the favor someday!

Where should I stay? Do I have to think about this yet?

We recommend you stay as close to the festivities as possible, and yes, it’d be helpful to think about this soon. Get the lodging lowdown on options for on-site lodging, group rates at nearby hotels and off-site lodging.

Do I need a car?

This is California, so: probably, if you plan to do some independent exploring. Or perhaps not, if you are traveling to and from Sequoia around the times many others are and don’t mind some coordination/dependence. Our goal is to minimize the need for a car during the wedding weekend itself. See here for more info.

What’s the deal with all those mysterious photos?

We’ll let you know once we figure it out. They must lead somewhere…

What if I don’t like nature / eggplant / kiwis / brains / robots / ideas / spheres / etc.?

We suppose you can still come. (But let’s hope you like Kiwis, at least.)

Do I have to be square?

It’s just a suggestion. There are plenty of other shapes to adopt!

How can I help?

So glad you asked! For a start, you can see this page.

What if I have more questions?

, but… ask us, ask us, ask us!
nicknancynet@gmail.com